How Chris Cuomo of CNN Just Spoke to THIS Woman

Cup of coffee

What should good Christian men and women do when they are mocked for having an opinion that differs from someone with power or authority? Is there even any good answer to that? Consider this.

What SHOULD a Christian do when they are belittled or defiled by the world? 

I watched CNN this morning as Alisyn Camerota and Chris Cuomo hosted a morning news show called “New Morning”.  

I wasn’t watching for anything in particular this morning.  I had just turned CNN on to catch the daily “drift” of current events and watch any political “sensations of the day”.  

As I sat there as a relaxed morning couch potato just sipping my coffee and munching a flax seed muffin I had just whipped up, I saw Dr. Ben Carson… shall we say enter stage.  

Dr. Carson was there to be interviewed by the male host of the show “New Morning”, Mr. Chris Cuomo.

While the first questions Mr. Cuomo had for Dr. Carson were about Donald Trump, the 2016 Republican presumptive nominee for President of The United States and a New York Times story that had been refuted earlier in the morning by one of those quoted in the article, Mr. Cuomo seemed to gear off message before even 5 minutes were up.  

Well, you know… I’m not in TV journalism land, and I was just sitting there as a mature (over 50) woman with a cup of coffee and a flax seed muffin in hand, but it kind of appeared to me that when Dr. Carson equated what he determined as misquotes in the NY Times article with the struggles he had with saying one thing and seeing it reported “out of context” (as Dr. Carson fairly much described it generally speaking), Mr. Cuomo seemily seized upon an opportune moment without hesitation and perhaps without even wisdom or control.   

Dr. Carson:  

(Referring to times he has felt his words have been misquoted) 

“… and they take a portion of it and make it into a headline when it’s completely the opposite of what you’re intending.  … And they (journalists) do this purposefully.  That’s what’s so bad.  

I appeal to people in the press and particularly the younger generation to reject that.  It may be tempting because maybe you’ll get a promotion and maybe you’ll be the big man on campus, but we’ve gotta start thinking about our nation. 

Chris Cuomo:

“… You should be judged for what you DO because we are not a part of a big gang; I promise you there is no communication, ah, ‘inter-mural-ly’ between different journalists to collude on stories, but often, the reason that you get taken, a way you don’t like, as a politician, is because what you said doesn’t come out the way you WANTED it, Dr. Carson, and you’ve had that experience as well, Dr. Carson.  It’s not always the reporter when you get caught out there saying something you shouldn’t have or didn’t want to say.  Right?” 

Ben Carson:  

“Ah, I wouldn’t say always, but there are clearly people who have an agenda, and they will CLEARLY take things and distort them, or over blow them.  

I mean, I could give you MULTIPLE examples (chuckles), and it’s just, it’s absurd, and people know that, and that’s one of the reasons the American people don’t trust the press as much as they used to.  

It used to be…. 

You know… I remember when I was growing up, and you would turn the TV on, and you would see Walter Cronkite or somebody like that, and you know, you could really trust them.  Even though Cronkite was a left wing radical, you would never know that.” 

Mr. Cuomo responded in defense of Walter Cronkite whom he called his “mentor” and said he believed he (Walter Cronkite) did the job the right way upon which Ben Carson said:

“He did a very good job.  We can agree on that”.  

You can see that and the entire interview here.  

http://www.cnn.com/videos/politics/2016/05/16/ben-carson-new-day-donald-trump-media.cnn 

You can also see the full interview here:  

 

 

Disturbed by the above words which felt to me as as either an opportunistic slam on Dr. Carson’s communication skills or perhaps a stress vent which resulted in a still-perceived mocking of Dr. Carson’s communication skills, I tweeted the following comment and tagged Mr. Cuomo in it.  

 

I received this reply from Chris Cuomo shortly after that tweet:  

 

And I responded, but let me be honest about my feelings first.  

I felt like I had just been shamed!  I was upset Mr. Carson was treated as he was.  I said something, and I felt as if I had just been shamed.  I was angry.     

Oh, I’ll admit, while not a horrible response, my response was not AS controlled as some might feel it should have been.  Let’s remember though, I’m not the one who is supposedly the professional journalist here either.

I DO profess Jesus Christ as my Savior though.   I have that label of “Christian” which I carry.

Consequently, while I am not bound to any professional journalist’s take of me, and being spoken to abusively should NEVER be tolerated, I AM bound to the Heavenly Father who is always shaping and molding me in a direction of retrospection and growth. I can at least now be retrospect as to how I could have best handled the undignified description this man gave me as a response to my complaint.    

Here was the conversation after I received a message from Mr. Cuomo saying I was no more savvy than my Twitter handle “@Padoozles”.

 

And as one more jab to make my point, I sent a follow-up tweet to CNN:

 

 

And this (just for the record so I’m not accused of not telling you I said this too):

 

But alas, all my re-examination, rehashing, and recapitulation was for naught.  

I was not spoken badly to…..  I guess…. 

 

And…

I should be able to take a joke… I guess…. 

 

 

At this point, I had at least begun the process of determining how to quiet a man who had NOT supposedly made me a victim of shaming and who had “just — made  —  a —- joke”, so I responded:  

@ChrisCuomo Will it make you feel better if we can what you said a joke? 🙂 @CNN


OK, so now I realize I misspelled the word “call” and incorrectly typed it as “can” in the tweet above.  You see, Mr. Cuomo, when you tell a women she isn’t any more savvy than the word “padoozles”, you really DO make them self-conscious.  And I am, but at least I lighted it up enough that you felt you won, and I figured you might at least then leave me alone.  

I received this finalized statement from the winner, or perceived winner.  

To which I informed him, in the tweet below, I indeed WOULD explain.

 

@ChrisCuomo I WILL explain, and you’ll get a copy. Oh yea, it was BEFORE Dr. Carson mentioned Walter Cronkite, just for the record you know.

 

So there you go, Mr. Cuomo.  That was a lot of your time wasted (and mine as well) on some little morning couch potato with a cup of coffee, a flax seed muffin, and an opened mouth watching in disbelief and disgust of what I perceived as outright mocking of Dr. Ben Carson.  

That was simply a lot of wasted time.

However, since you seem so dedicated to following up on one woman’s complaint over how you spoke to Mr. Carson, your response to my complaint so eerily similar to what I perceived as your response to Dr. Carson’s this morning, I took the time to “explain”.  

Mr. Cuomo, I STILL don’t like the way you spoke with Dr. Carson.  I felt like you used his ‘complaint’ as an opportunity to mock him.  

Furthermore Mr. Cuomo, you DID mock me.  Calling me as “savvy” as my Twitter name @Padoozles DOES make me a victim, not a victim in the sense of a rape victim, but a victim in the sense of feeling mocked… and yea….  feeling like someone was trying to “shame me” so that I would “shut up”. 

When you shame a woman, when you shame ANYONE, that is wrong.  

And just so you know, Mr. Cuomo, my name is Chris Stevens @padoozles, and padoozles is THIS website where I write to women every day about being the best kind of women God has created them to be… even in a tough world, with hard decisions, through mistakes, or with people who want to silence the woman’s voice when it’s convenient for them to do so.  

Wishing you well now, Mr. Cuomo.  I pray you will see where you might be at this time of your life and that you may come to understand something you had not realized before.  

If you can do that, I will consider this time worthwhile on my part.  

With that said….

What should good Christian men and women do when they are mocked for having an opinion that differs from someone with power or authority? 

I’m not sure I know the right answer.  I have been honest here with how I first responded in anger to degrading words but then how I went on to try to control my own actions through the anger.  

More importantly, I at least took responsibility for my part in what I could do to keep the situation from escalating once I realized I would not win, if for no other reason than another seemed intent on never letting me leave unscathed in some way. 

Most importantly however, I remember now that I am a precious child of God and that God exults in me no matter what mean or silly things someone might say to me or call me.

In other words:

  1.  I made my point, a valid one. 
  2. When I perceived a degradation, a non-winning situation, I chose to use whatever actions were available to me to de-escalate that bad situation.
  3. I moved on, ever encourage by my faith.

Hopefully I’ll be able to encourage others along the way even more now too because of what I’ve learned from this event.

You’re right, Mr. Cuomo… I am NO victim.  I am a strong woman, and my Lord God loves me.  I am NO victim.

And I’m going to hold Christ Jesus in my heart and remember that love no matter what ANYONE says or does to me.

Maybe for this time anyway, that’s the best thing I could be doing.   

If you have been shamed or just feel badly about yourself in some way, please read the article I JUST WROTE this morning, long before I knew anyone like Mr. Chris Cuomo would make their way into my life today.  

The Lord Will Exult Me? | A Look At Zephaniah 3:17

Yep.  The Lord has great timing, doesn’t He?