According to the results of a recent study by Bowling Green State University, the divorce rate of baby boomers has doubled in the past 20 years.
Another study from the Office for National Statistics in England about the same time indicated that both young and old couples now spend less time on building their marriage relationship than ever before. Marriages are disintegrating at all levels now.
Can something as small as a couples getaway weekend even make a dent in saving a marriage that is on the rocks or headed that way in the future?
Indicators point to the answer yes, and here’s how.
How Weekend Getaways for Couples Can Help Save a Marriage
- Getting away from the never ending emergencies, decisions, and frustrations in a couple’s daily lives gives them the time and opportunity to focus on and talk about any possible problems in the marriage.
- Without daily interruptions and without daily pressures, couples are more likely able to focus on the actual marriage relationship and exhibit clearer thinking about what is going well and where the relationship is having any problems.
- The change of pace a couples getaway vacation brings provides a higher emotional level which can help when determining each individual’s outlook for the future.
- Any marriage and family counselor will tell you that when an individual takes his or her first step in the process of making life better, the process of healing doesn’t seem so far away after all. That insight alone can help a married couple be more productive in making their marriage a better one, regardless of how much, or little, work is ahead.
With the understanding that a married couples retreat provides a cleared schedule, a clearer mind, a more positive venue, and a more positive outlook, it’s more understandable how even a short time away in a couple’s life can be helpful in saving a marriage.
What things can a couple do to get the most help for their marriage from weekend getaways?
1. Plan several small weekend getaways throughout the year as opposed to one big vacation.
The greater number of getaways provides a greater number of positive experiences to enjoy together as a couple, to remember good times, and to look forward to more good times together in the future.
Short breaks are also probably more realistic both time wise and as far as costs go than one big vacation would be.
2. Keep the plans simple but enjoyable.
You need time to enjoy each others company, and you want to have some fun together. You also need time to communicate and share. This is where your “together” dreams will start again!
3. Pray for both yourself and your spouse before you actually leave on your trip together.
Welcome God into your marriage. Let Him know you honor His same priority when it comes to being man and wife, and ask that He be a part of your lives, every day and in every way, and especially in your work to keep your marriage healthy, strong, happy, and if you’re to this point, even just together.
4. Couples that have committed to reading a book on marriage, family, or other shared life issue find weekend getaways a great time to discuss what they have read and how it affects their lives as a married couple.
I would highly recommend this as it provides a direction to go if communication has been a little weak for some reason and also for the opportunity this kind of activity provides for the couple to discuss issues based on this combined information and to literally write down actions or steps they feel might be helpful for their relationship or life together.
Check what marriage and family books are available from a Christian bookstore, talk with a pastor or Christian friend to get a recommendation on good book reads, or research and order an interesting book when you first start planning your next getaway, and have one copy for each person so you’re not as tempted to talk about it when you are still home in the midst of kids and schedules and work.
Get two copies of the book, read them individually, and make plans to have a good discussion while you are away from everything that would distract you from a good conversation.
5. The most important way to handle the time away as a husband and wife is to plan your getaway in a way that best suits the personalities of both individuals.
This should be a good time for both parties to come together as a couple and enjoy that experience and some time together, not merely an act of quick improvement in a relationship or an evaluation of progress.
A word of note: If you or your spouse feel you just can’t take the time or set aside the money to go away , please reconsider and do what you have to do to experience this time away as a couple.
As far as making a getaway more affordable, a room at a local hotel or looking for online sites that list cheap last minute weekend getaways for couples or inexpensive weekend getaways for couples can help with costs sometimes. As far as making the time, it’s just a basic principle – You both NEED to take the time.
Weekend getaways for couples can be a very important part of saving a marriage, and that time together can accomplish good things in a relationship. Both saving a marriage that has had difficulties and protecting a marriage that has been so far good are worthy actions and well worth the time, the cost, and the effort.